Massage Etiquette: What You Need to Know Before Your Session

When you think of massage etiquette, the unwritten rules that make a massage session safe, respectful, and effective for both client and therapist. It's not about being perfect—it's about being clear, comfortable, and cooperative. Most people walk into a massage room nervous, unsure if they should talk, what to wear, or if it’s okay to fall asleep. The truth? Your therapist has seen it all. They’re not judging you—they’re focused on helping you relax and heal.

Massage therapy, a hands-on approach to relieving muscle tension, improving circulation, and reducing stress through pressure and movement is used in both modern spas and traditional systems like Ayurveda. In Ayurvedic massage, oils, rhythm, and intention matter just as much as technique. Whether you're getting a Swedish rubdown or a Shirodhara oil treatment, the same core rules apply: communicate your needs, respect boundaries, and show up as yourself. You don’t need to be silent. If the pressure’s too light, say so. If you’re cold, ask for a blanket. If you’re not sure what to do with your arms, just ask. A good therapist wants you to feel in control.

Bodywork boundaries, the clear physical and emotional limits that protect both client and practitioner during treatment are non-negotiable. No therapist should ever touch your genitals, breasts, or inner thighs unless it’s medically necessary—and even then, only with clear consent. If something feels off, trust your gut. You have the right to stop at any time. Likewise, therapists don’t expect you to undress completely. Most people keep their underwear on. Draping ensures privacy, and you’ll never be exposed unless you’re comfortable. This isn’t about modesty—it’s about safety.

Spa etiquette, the shared norms of behavior in wellness spaces that help everyone feel calm and respected includes arriving on time, turning off your phone, and avoiding heavy meals right before. Don’t show up smelling like perfume or cologne—your therapist needs to breathe. Don’t bring your phone into the room. And please, don’t ask for a discount because you’re "just here for the vibes." These places run on real labor, real oils, and real expertise.

What you’ll find in the posts below are real stories and practical tips from people who’ve been on both sides of the table. You’ll learn how to handle awkward moments, what to say when you’re uncomfortable, why some massages hurt but feel good, and how Ayurvedic massage differs from a typical spa experience. There’s no one-size-fits-all rule, but there are clear do’s and don’ts that keep things safe, effective, and human. Whether you’re new to massage or you’ve been getting them for years, this collection will help you show up with confidence—and leave feeling truly restored.